Can my son participate?
I am actually all set with the participants I need for this project, but thank you for your interest!
If you'd like to do a similar shoot though, you should definitely reach out to a local photographer and/or princess party company! If you'd like recommendations on princess party companies in your area that support this project, feel free to message me! I used to be a company owner myself, so I am in the know!
Also, please feel free to join our special Facebook group for parents and supporters:
Boys Can Be Princesses Too Support Group
Why are you forcing little boys to wear dresses?
I assure you I am not! The boys are participating because they want to. I'd never make anyone do anything they don't want to do - participation is purely voluntary!
I understand that many people do not think a boy would ever want to wear a dress, but this project, and the comments from fellow parents, shows that yes, there are boys that absolutely DO love wearing princess dresses!
In fact the whole point of the project is to promote the idea of NOT forcing your children to play how YOU want them to! So we are on the same page here :)
I would love to help with this project! What can I do?
Awesome, glad to hear it! There are a few ways you can help out, even if you aren't local to Chicago:
Spread the word!
Like us and Share our posts on Facebook
Use hastag #BoysCanBePrincessesToo
Send the project to social media pages, news sources, bloggers, vloggers, influencers, celebrities, any one or anything that might be interested and help get the word out further!
The more places these pictures are, the more likely the people that need to see them will see them!
Send kind words!
This project creates a lot of hate, so any love you can send would be greatly appreciated! Emails, Facebook comments or messages, all are welcome and very much needed!
I'm doing these photoshoots probono, but unfortately the studio space is not free! Donations help with all the costs associated with doing a series of free photo shoots. And it helps me spread the word, by paying for advertising!
You can donate here: GoFundMe Campaign
Moderate the comments!
Facebook doesn't always notify page owners of new comments, so if you see a particularly nasty comment on a picture of one of the participants, please message the page asap. Thanks for looking out!
Anything else you can think of!
Have a talent or business or anything else you think might be able of service to this project? I'm all ears!
Anyone can be a princess! Why are you excluding everyone but boys?
I totally agree that anyone can be a princess!
However, for this project I chose to portray the princesses as genericly as possible because otherwise it would take the focus off the boys. I wanted the actual characters to be the mundane part of the project, the focus being on the children that participated instead!
I do believe *everyone* can be a princess and that everyone can portray these princesses specifically. I also think that could be a whole beauitful project in its own right! ;)
Why only boys?
I chose to only focus on boys for this project because I wanted to make the message as strong and clear as possible. I worried that the message of "it's ok for a boy to be a princess" would get lost in a broader project and that would be an injustice to them.
Granted, a project like this has the ability to shed light on many different groups and issues, and it's tempting to try and do more, but I think it will be a stronger impact by focusing on just one issue. If I were to have featured many different types of princesses with the boys, it would have taken the light off the boys and their struggle. It would have diminished all of the messages and done a disservice to every group featured by not focusing on just them and their struggles. By focusing on just boys, I'm able to draw attention to just that issue.
I do have plans for different types of shoots in the future, but I also am hoping this shoot inspires other people to do similar photo projects of their own! So if there is something you really feel passionate about and want to try to tackle it yourself, do it! And feel free to contact me if you want any input on how to do it :) You can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I want to do my own Boys Can Be Princesses Too photoshoot! Can it be part of this project?
You are definitely more than welcome to host photoshoots with princesses and anyone that wants to dress as one! However it cannot be officially affiliated with this project or use this project's name or logo as those are copyrighted.
So while you may not be able to do it as part of this project, I encourage everyone to explore ways they can put meaningful and representative content into the world. Be it photoshoots, art work, performances, whatever! Think about what you can do to leave the world a better place.
I'm always down to brainstorm ideas with others and give tips and feedback. Feel free to contact me at email@example.com.
And if you DO do a similar photoshoot, art project, or anything, please send it my way! I'd love to see it and maybe share it too!
Boys can't be princesses! "Princess" literally means female! Why can't they be princes?
Don't worry, no one is trying to say boys can literally become princesses! This is about playtime and pretending - make believe! The project is saying boys can be princesses the same way they can be superheroes or Paw Patrol pups or ninja turtles or dragons or whatever else their imagination comes up with. Everyone knows they cannot literally BE those things, but they can when they play!
These boys are pretending to be specific characters they love, which happen to be princesses. They can be princes if they want too. No one is saying they can't. This project is about not limiting a child's play based on gender roles... or semantics.
The title of the project is simply rhetoric, not meant to be taken literally. To do so just totally misses the whole point of the project!
What if I don't agree with this message?
That’s ok! I know not everyone is going to agree or support this project. You absolutely have the right to your own opinion. However, please read through everything on the site before passing (and posting) judgement, as many people seem to misunderstand this project and its intentions.
This project is about letting go of gender stereotypes so we can let kids play however they want. To not stifle their imagination, creativity, or fun just because of society’s gender norms. We’re doing a great job empowering girls (letting them play as beloved male characters, enjoy what other’s consider “boy” things, etc) now let’s empower boys too.
Granted I know it can be uncomfortable, annoying, angering or even scary when such views are called into question. I don’t blame you. It’s been that way for so long, it's hard to think of it any other way. It's honestly normal to feel defensive about it. But I urge you to stop for a minute and think, really think about this project and this message.
This project might not change anyone's mind, but I'm hoping it at least gets people thinking, quesitoning, and talking about issues such as gender roles in children's playtime. Like the quote from Cinderella: "Just because it's what's done doesn't mean it's what should be done." Meaning just because that's the way it's always been, doesn't mean it's the way it always should be. Something to think about!
I'm open to civil discussions or to answering questions and providing more clarity about the project and its message :) Feel free to join the discussion on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BoysCanBePrincessesToo
(Civil discussion is encouraged but know that any hate speech from either side will be blocked! Keep it mature everyone!)
My son loves "girly" things but I'm afraid to post about it publicly. Any suggestions?
Sure! Come join our special Facebook group for parents and supporters! It's a private group so you are safe to post pictures, questions, discussions, whatever!
Check it out here:
Membership approval is strict, so please answer all the questions it asks when joining as throughly as possible. It also helps to have liked our main Facebook page ;)
These kids are going to get bullied and made fun of at school! Why would you do this to them?
As I said in the previous question, I'm not doing anything to them. No one was forced into participating. This is who they are, I am just photographing it.
The idea that people, especially children, should change who they are in order to not be bullied by others is appalling. The bullies are the issue here, not the children expressing themselves. We should be teaching children to respect others and be kind.
The argument that kids are mean is just an excuse and not addressing the real problem. Mean kids need to be taught to be better people, and that responsibility falls square on adults' shoulders.
So if you are truly concerned about bullying, consider donating or volunteering to anti-bullying organizations in your area.
More information about how you can help stop bullying can be found here: StopBullying.gov